Many musicians, singers, and bands dream of becoming well-known and respected within their specialized fields of expertise. Some people would argue and say musicians are exhibitionists who essentially have a need to ‘act out’ an alter ego, and ‘what is wrong with simply performing your music for yourself and your family’?! Whatever your reasons, there is nothing wrong with dreaming and reaching out for your goals. We all need to dream and have a direction in life. It is essential to feel good about yourself, and feel confident about your abilities. To be creative and motivated is the sure path to take, but remember that the central part of success in life is simply feeling happy. Happiness is and should be our ultimate goal.
There are many aspects to consider when entering this world of show business. Building emotional resilience and preparing emotional responses are as vital as rehearsing for the performance and perfecting your recordings.
The music business has been described as a cut-throat industry for many years. It has been said to have many ‘sharks’ lurking about looking to profit. Young people, in particular, are vulnerable to criticism and judgment and at risk of feeling disheartened.
The Need for Love and Approval
The prospect of getting noticed and valued is a basic human need that starts in our childhood. When you were a little toddler or a small child, you may remember doing a little dance, a play or a painting or even some good work at school and showing your achievement to your parents, neighbours, siblings, and teachers. That is our way of looking for validation. To be valued, respected, and noticed are all traits to meet our basic human needs for what is essentially love. The stronger the family foundation, the easier it is to take the knockbacks from the industry. It may hurt and not be what you expected and indeed disappointing, but survival and bouncing back will be easier. For individuals who suffered abuse and negativity from essential family members, the higher the impact of negative comments. Receiving criticism can be devastating for some.
If family love is internalised, accessing inner love and self-respect is more likely. The foundation of your sense of self leads to your survival. In turn, the lower your self-esteem, the higher the risk for internalising more negative feedback. For those who have love around, consider yourself given a head-start in the emotional resilience department! The most important love is for yourself. An inner love will be your companion in overcoming hurdles in the music industry. Your inner pillars of strength will guide you through the emotional journey involved. There is nothing more rewarding than standing firm on your own two feet.